A Four-Year-Old’s Script for Love
“Stop ringing me Richard, you’re not the dad. I don’t love you anymore. I hate you now!”
These are the words of a 4 year old playing a fantasy game. She was filmed during her day at school as part of an experiment to discover the secret lives of 4-6 year olds.
Where Does a Child Learn That?
I wondered to myself where she could have heard that. It could only have been from an adult or the television.
As funny as the statement is, it is disconcerting to observe young and impressionable minds obscured with a tainted idea of what love is.
The Secret of Loving Two People
This reminds me of a 7 year old I taught in one of my children’s yoga classes last year. We spoke about love and I had asked everyone if they thought it would be possible to love many people at the same time.
Her answer was that it was possible to love many people, as long as you kept this hidden from your nearest and dearest (like mom or dad) because you loving someone else might hurt their feelings and they might stop loving you.
Love Was Never Meant to Be Rationed
This kind of unconscious eduction is contradictory to the true nature of love. Love is not quantifiable, but if you had to measure it, you would discover that love is unbounded, overflowing and limitless.
Conditioned by Fear
We have become so conditioned by ideas of right and wrong imposed on us by society, our parents and religious/educational institutions. How much of these norms and expectations are based on fear? Is it not just a feeble attempt at making that which is ever changing more permanent so as to appease the grasping and clinging nature of the mind?
The Perversion of Love
I don’t know all of the answers but I do know this:
“Stop ringing me Richard …” is not part of love.
It is the opposite.
It is not a truthful representation of love, but rather a representation of the perversion of love. This is not the sound way of growing up our children. There is no power in there but a lot of fear and ego.
From Innocence to Repression
And then we wonder what happened to us between the innocence of childhood and the dreadful repression of adulthood.
Karmic Rebelle
Disrupt Karma. Restore Dharma.
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